Love, Art, Philosophy
Gay men are yearning for love. Some have found it in enduring relationships. Some search for it in a number of one-night stands. Some find it through associating with men with similar interests in art, theatre or sport. Some men are able to look at their sexuality in philosophical terms.
A kiss is just a kiss. Right?
A kiss sets the mood for your entire sexual experience with your partner. If he's a bad kisser, you might as well put your clothes back on, go home and jerk off.
The key to good kissing is using your lips. I've kissed guys who would tense up their lips, and it felt like I was kissing a statue.
Relax, or at least make a mental effort to relax your lips. Allow them to be soft and pliable. When starting to kiss try gently brushing your partner's cheek, or running your lips along his neck just barely touching him.
Don't be afraid to use your breath, nothing gets me hotter than feeling someone's warm breath on my neck, or someone gently (and I mean GENTLY) blowing in my ear. It always sends goose bumps down my back.
This type of gentle play with your partner is extremely sensual.
As you get into it, you should start using your tongue. Run your tongue across his lips, moistening them lightly. While kissing make sure to lick your own lips to make them soft. It's not a pleasant experience to kiss someone whose lips have the texture of sandpaper.
Use your tongue on his neck. Gently run it around his earlobe and ear, if you feel like it, suck on his earlobe - but NOT his ear. You can cover his entire ear with your mouth and breathe gently - don't do it too hard otherwise they'll feel like they're in a wind tunnel.
When starting to kiss, open your mouth just slightly. I can't tell you how many times I went to French someone and he opened his mouth widely and stuck his tongue all the way out. I felt like I was frenching a horse. You're kissing here, not eating a Big Mac!
Let your partner accept the tip of your tongue into his mouth, or vice versa. As you get more intense try sucking lightly on your partner's tongue - be careful not to suck too hard, lest he feel like you're trying to rip it out of his mouth. Try gently nibbling or sucking on your partner's lips. Feel their texture and softness with your tongue. Be creative here.
Always be aware of your teeth. It's not really pleasant to be French kissing someone and feeling his teeth scrape the area around your mouth. Teeth can be fun though, a light bite/nibble on your partner's chin may be fun.
When kissing someone - kiss them the way you like to be kissed by someone else. Think back to the way that person kissed you and what they were doing. Try using those same techniques.
Most guys I've found kiss with their eyes closed - try opening your eyes occasionally - it adds a new perspective to the experience.
When kissing other parts of your partner's body try to find his sensitive areas. Explore his body with your lips. Look for his feedback - does he tense up - does he hold you tighter - does his breathing change etc.
Some common sensitive areas are: yes love handles, the insides of his thighs, his belly button and, of course, nipples. Some guys, however, don't get much feeling from that, so don't over do it otherwise he may get bored.
Once again don't be afraid to use your imagination - be creative, be playful, have fun with it.
If kissing is not your thing, then you've just wasted about 5 to 10 minutes of your time reading this. (From "South Pacific Pearl")